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Thursday, October 15, 2015

Cara Delevingne Opens Up About Depression & Issues With Modeling Industry

Or Otherwise Entitled:

"Be Comfortable In Your Own Shoes Because You're Going To Be In Them A Long Time."


23-year-old supermodel-turned-actress Cara Delevingne has never shied away from telling the public how she really feels — especially when it comes to the modeling industry.

However, here her astonishingly frank, brave interview with the wonderful Rupert Everette, contains insights which I hope all women, especially young women, do take the time to watch from start to finish.

Hats off to Delevingne for her inner strength and courage not to give up on herself. That took the most courage of all.

Wednesday, October 14, 2015

Karen Carpenter: Close To You. Superstar.

Still speechless at how perfect she was.

And so filled with grace to keep sharing her profound talent with the world while facing her own crushing, lethal imperfections. Heartbreaking.

Tuesday, October 13, 2015

Mary Karr: Best Memoirist of the decade. Except from The New Yorker "The Art of Memoir"

OCTOBER 11, 2015

Sacred Carnality


This essay is drawn from “The Art of Memoir,” by Mary Karr, published byHarperCollins.

My holy of holies is the human body

—Anton Chekhov, May, 1888

Carnality sits at the root of the show-don’t-tell edict that every writing teacher harps on all the time, because it works. By carnal, I mean, Can you apprehend it through the five senses? In writing a scene, you must help the reader employ smell and taste and touch as well as image and noise. The more carnal a writer’s nature, the better she’ll be at this, and there are subcategories according to the senses. A great glutton can evoke the salty bite of pastrami on black rye; the sex addict will excel at smooth flesh; the one with a painterly eye visual beauty, etc. Every memoir should brim over with the physical experiences that once streamed in—the smell of garlicky gumbo, your hand in an animal’s fur, the ocean’s phosphor lighting up bodies underwater all acid green. Of all memoir’s five elements, carnality is the most primary and necessary and—luckily for me as a teacher—the most easy to master.

My Texas-oil-worker daddy introduced me as a kid to the raconteur’s need for physical evidence when he told me a story about selling fake moonshine to some city boys. His brother was driving off with Daddy hanging on the running board of a Model T when a pursuer driving alongside snatched Daddy’s pants off from behind.

Bull dookey, I said. You saw that in “Bugs Bunny.”

“You don’t believe me?” I didn’t. “I had this shirt on when it happened.”

My mouth slung itself open.

It’s sad how long I believed stories based on arbitrary physical objects that my daddy fished out from his past and plunked down into my present, like that shirt. It became totemic evidence that elevated the tall tale into reality.

Getting sophisticated about carnal writing means selecting sensual data—items, odors, sounds—to recount details based on their psychological effects on a reader. A great detail feels particular in a way that argues for its truth. A reader can take it in. The best have extra poetic meaning. In some magic way, the detail from its singular position in a room can help to evoke the rest of the whole scene, the way Conroy doing pages on the yo-yo evokes his body kinesthetically in the instant.

The great writer trolls the world for totemic objects to place on a page. In every genre, it’s key.

Playwright and short-story genius Anton Chekhov could hypodermically inject an item so iconographic, so reverberant with meaning, that its presence almost recounts a whole character. In his seminal “Lady with a Dog,” a rake at a summer holiday resort seduces a pious young wife over a period of weeks, and afterward, as she sobs in bed, he cuts a slice of watermelon. The butchered fruit isn’t a symbolic stand-in for the ruined woman, but the coolness of his appetite for it as she sobs speaks volumes. When one of the first confessional poets, Robert Lowell, wants to describe the psychological state of his mother’s tense, aristocratic home, he claims her claw-foot furniture has “an on tiptoe air,” in the process making the cool Waspy atmosphere into a kind of character.

The first memoirist to lure me into her physical universe with that kind of exactitude may have been Maya Angelou in “I Know Why the Caged Bird Sings.” Standing before her church congregation on Easter, the child Angelou forgets her lines and feels caged inside a lavender taffeta dress she’d once thought was going to transform her into one of the “sweet little white girls who were everybody’s dream of what was right with the world.” That beloved white girl-ness—so at odds with the physical fact of herself—undercut any confidence she might have had. (Which partly comprises that inner enemy I’ll talk about more soon.) As she squirms and puffs, scrambling inside to remember, the hand-me-down dress’s silk rustles around her, sounding like “crepe paper on the back of hearses,” this wonderful sonic metaphor evocative of a time and place when horse-drawn hearses were draped in that rivery fabric. Almost every one of Angelou’s phrases in that initial scene possesses a kinesthetic element, so that we inhabit the girl’s body, which she wears with shame.

Beginning with the sunshine, Angelou puts us in a place and time only she can report on:

But Easter’s early morning sun had shown the dress to be a plain ugly cut-down from a white woman’s once-was-purple throwaway. It was old-lady-long too, but it didn’t hide my skinny legs, which had been greased with Blue Seal Vaseline and powdered with Arkansas red clay. The age-faded color made my skin look dirty.

Her hyphenated adjectives—once-was-purple, age-faded, old-lady-long—capture the peculiar language of southern complaint. (You no-tits-having was an actual invective hurled around my East Texas neighborhood.) The detail of her bony legs covered with Vaseline and clay—a southern black alternative to stockings I first learned of from her—is singular to her time. No detail is Brand X or generic. It all springs, as Keats once said of metaphor, like leaves from a tree.

And Angelou’s descriptions never flag as her soft-focus fantasy ends, so she’s transformed into a too-big girl with hair “a kinky mass,” also squinty eyes—“my daddy must’ve been a Chinaman.” She’s a girl “forced to eat pigs’ tails and snouts.” Further, she has broad feet and “a space between her teeth that would hold a number-two pencil”—the tooth space even conjuring a kid’s move of fitting a pencil there. Think of all the dreadful carnal clich├ęs Angelou might have chosen (other than nappy, which she does use once), and you twig to her talent for placing our bodies alive in a scene.

Strangely, readers “believe” what’s rendered with physical clarity. I once had a reader say, “I knew when you put in that old can of Babbo cleanser you were telling the God’s honest truth.” A guy I played a kissing game with in junior high was stunned that, thirty years later, I evoked his red shirt with a tiny sea horse embroidered on front. “You’re some kinda witch if you remember that,” he said.

Again, in instants of hyperarousal, focus narrows; sense memories from these states may sometimes stay brighter in recollection than others. Anybody juiced on adrenaline and the stress hormone cortisol—not unlike Angelou being scared in front of the church—registers sense impressions more intensely than in more typical time. Going back to the aforementioned kissing game, I can still distinctly feel myself inside the curved arms of the boy I’d so long had a crush on. Almost forty years later, I can still smell his Juicy Fruit gum. I put my hands up, almost to protect myself from standing too close, and my fingertips had the sea-horse outline imprinted on them.

Of course, physical details, however convincing, actually prove zip in terms of truth. Surely I misremember all kinds of stuff. Maybe the boy I kissed was chewing Bazooka Joe or Dubble Bubble, say. But I think in this case the specific memory—even if wrong—is permissible, because readers understand the flaws of memory and allow for them.

Noncarnal people may have to stretch to become memorable describers. We all start off sketching a character lightly—hair and eyes and weight like a driver’s license—and a less thoughtful writer may fail to sully the page with that person’s physical presence again, as if such a generic memory blurt makes an eternal impression. (As a kid, I was so revved up and anxious and hyper-vigilant that I studied people as if with a magnifying glass. Stimuli others barely register can still come across very loud to me.)

A haunting sense of place should ripple off any good memoir once the cover’s closed, and you may reopen the front again as you would a gate to another land. Anybody with crisp recall can get half decent at describing stuff with practice. Hilary Mantel explains her own confidence in her memories as growing from their vivid physicality:

Though my early memories are patchy, I think they are not, or not entirely confabulation, and I believe this because of their overwhelming sensory power; they come complete, not like the groping, generalized formulations of the subjects fooled by the photograph. As I say “I tasted,” I taste, and as I say “I heard,” I hear; I am not talking about a Proustian moment, but a Proustian cine-film.

As they do for Mantel, the sharpest memories often give me the spooky sense of looking out from former eyeholes at a landscape decades-since gone. The old self comes back, the former face. When that transformation happens inside me, it’s almost like I only have to set down what I see.

Compare two master writers—one in a noncarnal instant, the other in a carnal one. A passage from Robert Graves’s 1929 “Good-Bye to All That”—while good as prose—tells more than shows us his psychic state after World War I:

I was still mentally and nervously organized for war. Shells used to come bursting on my bed at night, even though Nancy shared it with me; strangers in daytime would assume the faces of friends who had been killed. . . . I could not use a telephone, I felt sick every time I travelled by train, and to see more than two new people in a single day prevented me from sleeping.*

Don’t mistake my view of Graves: he’s an extremely carnal writer, and his scenes of trench warfare clench at a reader’s bowels. But here the sentences have the quality more of a semantic memory than an episodic one—memory told more than memory lived. There is not a single scene but several condensed into phrases. He tells you he’s sick but doesn’t occupy the sick body. The only sense memory—large but not dwelled on above—is that of shells bursting in bed. Because they are plural, the faces are less vivid to us. (Again, he saw plenty of ghosts in singular form—I’m only making a point.)

Compare this to the physical detail of Michael Herr’s own “bad flash” in “Dispatches” (1977), which he likens to an old acid trip.

Certain rock and roll would come in mixed with rapid fire and men screaming. Sitting over a steak in Saigon once I made nasty meat connections, rot and burning from the winter before in Hue. Worst of all, you’d see people walking around whom you’d watched die in aid stations and helicopters. The boy with the huge Adam’s apple and the wire-rimmed glasses sitting by himself at a table on the Continental terrace had seemed much more nonchalant as a dead marine two weeks before.

Herr at first nearly faints, then does a double take and notes that the dead boy is not a ghost. The flashback seems triggered by smell, with “nasty meat connections” and “rot and burning.”

Unlike Graves’s plural flashbacks of “lost friends,” Herr sees a particular ghost marine “with the huge Adam’s apple and the wire-rimmed glasses.” Herr goes on to describe his stress reaction in a way we as readers can enter: “My breath was gummed up in my throat and my face was cold and white, shake shake shake.” (That wry shake shake shake is some of the rock-and-roll-speak that fuels the voice’s engine in “Dispatches” and steers the reader away from pity, which he adroitly deflects with lyrics and dark humor.)

Carnal memories don’t have to be traumatic, of course. Simple ones stick because of repetition. A neurologist friend took his college-age daughter to a new chain restaurant spun off from the one they’d visited every Saturday for a pumpkin muffin when she was a toddler. At the new place, my friend foisted a piece of his pumpkin muffin on his daughter without mentioning the old connection. From first bite, her eyes filled. She was remembering. She described every detail of the old place and how they’d go to the botanical garden after. “But it can’t be right,” she said, “because this place just opened.”

You know in “Robocop” when Peter Weller gets molded into some kind of metal suit with computer eyes and clenchy, strongman hands? An excellent carnal writer fashions not a robot, but what feels like a breathing, tasting avatar the reader can climb inside, thus wearing the writer’s hands and standing inside her shoes. The reader gets zipped into your skin.

*Graves also notes that the flashbacks that haunted him for more than ten years all came from his first four months in France only. “The emotion-recording apparatus seems to have failed after Loos,” he wrote; his memory sort of tanked up and stopped saving what passed before his eyes.

Thursday, July 23, 2015

Harmony Parking Lot. Brattleboro, Vermont.

Brattleboro, Vermont.

A town where the word freak no longer exists.  Not much here ever seems odd.  Somehow things seem acceptable here.  No matter what.

(Cue music:  Radiohead.  Weird Fishes.)

A truly Neptunian depot.
There is a central parking lot, named Harmony Lot, where everything, since I first saw it back in 1968, has actually in been in harmony with zen-like acceptance to what chooses to roll through this particular crossroad.
I get out of my Boston car rental and hear random notes of music floating around me. I am jet lagged. 
As far as I can see from this block-sized parking lot, there are only coffee shops and art galleries. And suggestions of music.
And I say to my kid Why do I keep hearing odd music? She says because, there's wind chimes.  Wind chimes in a parking lot? I look up. Indeed, there are wind chimes. Huge ones. 
Duct taped way up in a tree in the middle of the parking lot someone has duct-taped a set of enormous low-toned wind chimes. Of course. 
Then an apparent hippie with a black turban wrapped around his head bikes by, shirtless on a rusty bike with great abs. 
He is carrying a power drill. No, he's not a hippie. He's Sikh. 
This is Brattleboro. 
I walk to the corner of the parking lot (I haven't gone 20 feet yet.) and step over the granite curb and look up to see a young man holding a ciggarette with a wobbly gait lurch toward me, but in a friendly sort-of way. In his left hand a cigarette, in his right a tiny tortoiseshell cat with a big dog leash wrapped around it's neck twice binding it to the man's left arm.  On closer inspection I see it is not there by choice, it is lashed there.
I say, You have a kitten. On a leash. 
He corrects me. No it's not a kitten. It's a service Tea Cup cat. It warns me about my seizures. I get them.
Oh,I say. Because, what else does one say?
I look down. He has a 10 inch knife strapped to his belt in a leather sheath. 
Yes, he cheerfully continued, It's a tea cup service cat and this is as big as it gets.
He waves a tiny, bored, miserable kitten-sized cat at me in a circular motion, as if to demonstrate the cat will be his no matter what.  By "what" I mean being tossed around wildly for no good reason other than to prove docile servitude while being strapped to a lurching human.
The Service, blind, Tea Cup cat is also strapped to his arm by a leach clearly intended for a different breed and size of mammal.  The leather coils of leather strands engulf this tired tiny creature.  
The cat bobs at the end of his arm like an elderly person strapped into a ride perpetually turned full blast at the Orange County Fair. 
I notice the service "cat" is winking blandly at me. A lot.  With one eye.
He continues. 
Yes, most tea cup cats are born no bigger than a matchbox,  this one is as big as it will ever get. Because they are so small very few survive. This one survived but is blind in one eye. 
We stare at the tiny cat.  Upon closer inspection can see tne tiny cat's tiny eye is indeed, quite welded shut.
It'll have lung cancer, too. I think, but keep it to myself. 
Juliet is staring at this exchange with wordless wonder. 
I go on. Well, thank you very much for sharing this with me. I never had any idea this... kind of thing...exists.
He cheerfully bid me farewell, sucked on his cigarette and lurched on. 
Another person enlighted, I could hear him think. 
We went on our way, too. As if this kind of exchange happens every day. As if in a dream. 
Brattleboro's Harmony Parking Lot.
A Neptunian common ground.

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